my boyfriend and i have been together four year's he realy is a good man when he is sober,and i adore him i have learned to live with alcoholism from a previous marriage.of ten year's today my boyfriend admitted that he is a alcoholic something he has never done before. so i'm realy looking for some help! i have been to a couple of al-anon meeting's before and i know they can help. but he asked me to help him and i'm not realy sure how to respond,
i want to help and i also want to just packup and run for the hill's just to have some kind of peace in my life, but my heart tells me to stand by him and hold his hand and give him support through what i'm sure is going to be the most dificult thing he has ever done.
i have never chatted on line before but i'm desperate for some advice it's hard to talk to people who are close to you because you realy don't want anyone to know and they don't know what it's like to live with someone with this problem.
is there anyone out there willing to give constuctive advice?

Sounds as if you are doing the right thing if you are going to Al-Anon. As for helping him, you could suggest that he try some AA meetings. If you have "open" meetings where you live, you could even go with him.

I think that it is great that you want to stayby him. I am new to this whole thing too as well as Al Anon and I know people are going to tell you to get out while you can, so you have to be strong. I am learning myself that it takes a strong person to live with an alcoholic or an addict. ALWAYS remember to take care of your self too. If he wants to work a program that is wonderful, but rememner you cant work it for him, you should work a program of your own as well.
Take Care,
Katie