hi guys,

i havent been feeling the best lately, its very hard looking after mum alone.

but its a commitment i jumped into acoa style.

that one thing an acoa need to look at, instead of jumping in and taking on sole responsiblity, to look at all the pros and cons of the situation, and make sure we are not ignoring our needs so that we can help care for someone else.

i've been looking at some of the commitments i've taken on in my life and realised that i did most of them out of duty, even though i didnt want to do them.

acoa 12 steps teaches us to keep our focus firmly on ourselves.

love in recovery
irish

Good morning, Irish. I'll put you and your mum in my prayers. Thank you for being here.

Thanks Irish, so much I relate to that!

You are telling the story of my life.

I am sorry things are not been easy for you (((((((Irish))))))

Know I understand how we load ourselves and then had to struggle to get done with all, as one thing we do not know is how not to take responsiblities, but sometimes I have also discovered that I am not all responsible even for all this commitments I jumped in... somehow there is always someone "allowing" me to jump.

You probably did what you thought was the best as everybody else just slide out of it, thats what usually would happen to me.

I am having a tough moment here myself and your post help me again to get out of me and see there is a world outside and I am not the only one going through a hard time.

Thanks for being here.

thanks guys,
for replying to this post.

your right looking for, i did do what i thought was best while everyone else slid away and let me do it...thats been the way of it all my life....but i've been changing that, although theres nothing i cab do about my mother....i think i'll just have to ride this out.

the daft thing is,u'd have thought i would have learned my lesson the first time around the caring block.... i did the same when my dad was sick!
superwoman took on all the responsiblity :-)



i'm sorry to hear that things are not good for you at the moment, but theres light at the end of every tunnell, as we say in acoa....this too shall pass.
i'll be praying for you.

love in recovery
irish