hi members (((HUGS))).
I can relate to many traits, feelings and behaviours of an ACoA and have taken action to change my thoughts and behaviours over the past few years. I am an addict in recovery and have difficulty distinguishing where my part begins and ends (accountability) in regards to character defects in relationships. I might be a candidate for ACoA but I am not sure. Hope that is clear enough. Do you have a set of questions a person could answer if they were wondering if they were an ACoA? Denial is pretty tricky and before I realized I belonged in another 12 step program I answered a phamplet of 20 questions. Best mark I ever got on a quiz....ha ha
Do you also have any links to online materials/literature? I live way up in the bush of Northern Canada where recovery and support is next to nothing.
Thanks for being here...((((HUGS))))

Hi

I am an alcoholic and also Adult Childrem of Alcoholic. ACoA started with 4 members of alanon and its first attends were many alcoholics who were also adult children of alcoholics. It is a lot commom to alcoholics and addicts to have been raised in disfunctional families. So I belong to 2 twelve steps programs, at least!

But in all of them the focus is myself, my behavior, my doings. So if we are raised in a disfunctional family, still it is not them, it is me who create all the mess, although it has to be with the environment I grew up.

Anyway, I haven´t seen some like 20 questions to answer and find out if you are ACoA.

You will find more information regardin ACoA on these sites:

http://www.acawso.org

http://www.adultchildren.org/

http://www.drjan.com/

http://www.stepchat.com/

http://www.recovery.org/acoa/characteristics.html


Glad you are here

hi biogem.

i've been looking around the net and came up with this site that has the ACoa 20 questions.

so if you havent found them already, then try this site http://alcoholism.about.com/od/adult/a/quiz_adult.htm

theres the 20 questions and then some suggestions too.

hope this helps.

love in recovery.
irish

Hi Irish,

This was a great find and can help people to decide either they are or not ACoAs. What about pin in?

How are you doing?

Missing you.