I have been in Alanon for years, but right now live a long way from meetings, (am relying on litterature), so looking for some support please.
My partner is drinking again after 15 years sobriety. I am 'catasrophising' and need to hear about keeping it in the day, and that projection is a waste of time.

Anyone out there?

Hi, Meg! Welcome to the forums.

We also have an email Al-Anon meeting. It's often quiet on the list, but perhaps you could liven things up.

Also, for your reference, there is an online Al-Anon web site with listing of email and chat meetings:

http://www.ola-is.org

Many thanks, I will look into this.

want to talk?

want to talk?

I don't know if I can be of much support, since I do not live day to day in the same premises with an active drinker. Have many friends who are active or in recovery. I just try my best to concentrate on what I need to do to get through the next hour, days, week.
A lot of time I am surprised at how much I have been neglecting in my own life, and when I settle down and focus myself with small tasks and prayer, it usually doesn't take long until I am pleasantly surprised.

Well so much for a sober night to remember.
He tells me he wants to go to the fireworks, shows up stays 1/2 hour, says
I'm antsy, I'm leaving, I'm sorry, I'll call you tomorrow.

It stormed anyway, washed the fireworks out i'm sure.

Went to meeting. Will be going hot and heavy to meetings for the next few
months at least.

No more talking about him. I can take 1/2 hour here and there visit, looks
like that's all I'm going to get. Meanwhile I am back to 4th step, trying to
really get into it this time.

Thanks for listening.