Hi my name is michelle, I feel like i am at the end of my rope and wasnt sure where to turn. Here I am!
I have been with my fiance for over 9 years he is an alcoholic/addict with a cronic pain problem due to multiple surguries. I have been up and down with him for the whole time we have been together. He's fine for a while then has a relapse. I have done everything I know i shouldn't do to enable him.( lieing for him, making excuses for his behavior ect.....) I am at the point now where i understand what my mother ment by there's a fine line between love and hate. I love him and dont want to loose him, he's my soulmate (when he's sober) but I cant live like this anymore. His last relapse was this week and ended up with a dui (again)Hes now in the psyc dept at the hospital due to suicidal thoughts. He calls me every hour to moan about wanting to come home but I know hes in no frame of mind to be coming home right now. He's bringing me down with him. All I want to do now is cry. Not so much cause hes not here just because I am so tired of dealing with all this. If I had the money right now ( I am not working ) I think I would just get out of here for a while. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I dont have anyone here( where I live ) I can talk to about this. I guess I just needed to vent...... thanks for listening. cricket
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Hi, Michelle. Welcome to the forums.
Because you sound a bit desperate, I'd recommend looking for the nearest Al-Anon group or telephone hotline. Pick up the phone and call someone.
There's a worldwide meeting locator here:
http://www.al-anon.org
There is all sorts of help available for him. Obviously, he doesn't want it. So, there is nothing you can do to change him. It's not going to get better until (1) he gets help and (2) you get help. You can take care of that second thing right now, today.
Because you sound a bit desperate, I'd recommend looking for the nearest Al-Anon group or telephone hotline. Pick up the phone and call someone.
There's a worldwide meeting locator here:
http://www.al-anon.org
There is all sorts of help available for him. Obviously, he doesn't want it. So, there is nothing you can do to change him. It's not going to get better until (1) he gets help and (2) you get help. You can take care of that second thing right now, today.
I forgot to mention that the Al-Anon email meeting here at the club suddenly took off and people are talking to each other. It's a very active meeting right now.
If you'd like to subscribe, go to this page and use the form:
http://www.onlinealano.org/html/meetings.html
There are about 75 people in the meeting/on the list.
If you'd like to subscribe, go to this page and use the form:
http://www.onlinealano.org/html/meetings.html
There are about 75 people in the meeting/on the list.
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QUOTE(Guest_michelle_* @ Jul 9 2005, 01:12 PM)
Hi my name is michelle, I feel like i am at the end of my rope and wasnt sure where to turn. Here I am!
I have been with my fiance for over 9 years he is an alcoholic/addict with a cronic pain problem due to multiple surguries. I have been up and down with him for the whole time we have been together. He's fine for a while then has a relapse. I have done everything I know i shouldn't do to enable him.( lieing for him, making excuses for his behavior ect.....) I am at the point now where i understand what my mother ment by there's a fine line between love and hate. I love him and dont want to loose him, he's my soulmate (when he's sober) but I cant live like this anymore. His last relapse was this week and ended up with a dui (again)Hes now in the psyc dept at the hospital due to suicidal thoughts. He calls me every hour to moan about wanting to come home but I know hes in no frame of mind to be coming home right now. He's bringing me down with him. All I want to do now is cry. Not so much cause hes not here just because I am so tired of dealing with all this. If I had the money right now ( I am not working ) I think I would just get out of here for a while. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I dont have anyone here( where I live ) I can talk to about this. I guess I just needed to vent...... thanks for listening. cricket
I have been with my fiance for over 9 years he is an alcoholic/addict with a cronic pain problem due to multiple surguries. I have been up and down with him for the whole time we have been together. He's fine for a while then has a relapse. I have done everything I know i shouldn't do to enable him.( lieing for him, making excuses for his behavior ect.....) I am at the point now where i understand what my mother ment by there's a fine line between love and hate. I love him and dont want to loose him, he's my soulmate (when he's sober) but I cant live like this anymore. His last relapse was this week and ended up with a dui (again)Hes now in the psyc dept at the hospital due to suicidal thoughts. He calls me every hour to moan about wanting to come home but I know hes in no frame of mind to be coming home right now. He's bringing me down with him. All I want to do now is cry. Not so much cause hes not here just because I am so tired of dealing with all this. If I had the money right now ( I am not working ) I think I would just get out of here for a while. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I dont have anyone here( where I live ) I can talk to about this. I guess I just needed to vent...... thanks for listening. cricket
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QUOTE(still here @ Jul 22 2005, 10:09 AM)
Hello Michelle, I am new to this and just wanted to let you know that I understand what your saying and feeling.....I also feel at the end of my rope, his is drinking, every night to an exact science........18 beers for the buzz that he wants.
If you want to chat just let me know.
If you want to chat just let me know.
QUOTE(Guest_michelle_* @ Jul 9 2005, 01:12 PM)
Hi my name is michelle, I feel like i am at the end of my rope and wasnt sure where to turn. Here I am!
I have been with my fiance for over 9 years he is an alcoholic/addict with a cronic pain problem due to multiple surguries. I have been up and down with him for the whole time we have been together. He's fine for a while then has a relapse. I have done everything I know i shouldn't do to enable him.( lieing for him, making excuses for his behavior ect.....) I am at the point now where i understand what my mother ment by there's a fine line between love and hate. I love him and dont want to loose him, he's my soulmate (when he's sober) but I cant live like this anymore. His last relapse was this week and ended up with a dui (again)Hes now in the psyc dept at the hospital due to suicidal thoughts. He calls me every hour to moan about wanting to come home but I know hes in no frame of mind to be coming home right now. He's bringing me down with him. All I want to do now is cry. Not so much cause hes not here just because I am so tired of dealing with all this. If I had the money right now ( I am not working ) I think I would just get out of here for a while. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I dont have anyone here( where I live ) I can talk to about this. I guess I just needed to vent...... thanks for listening. cricket
I have been with my fiance for over 9 years he is an alcoholic/addict with a cronic pain problem due to multiple surguries. I have been up and down with him for the whole time we have been together. He's fine for a while then has a relapse. I have done everything I know i shouldn't do to enable him.( lieing for him, making excuses for his behavior ect.....) I am at the point now where i understand what my mother ment by there's a fine line between love and hate. I love him and dont want to loose him, he's my soulmate (when he's sober) but I cant live like this anymore. His last relapse was this week and ended up with a dui (again)Hes now in the psyc dept at the hospital due to suicidal thoughts. He calls me every hour to moan about wanting to come home but I know hes in no frame of mind to be coming home right now. He's bringing me down with him. All I want to do now is cry. Not so much cause hes not here just because I am so tired of dealing with all this. If I had the money right now ( I am not working ) I think I would just get out of here for a while. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I dont have anyone here( where I live ) I can talk to about this. I guess I just needed to vent...... thanks for listening. cricket
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