I am very new to the entire world of NA and AA. I have been dating a man for almost 10 months now. He was clean for the first six and then relapsed. He has not been able to get back on track with his recovery since that time. He stopped going to meetings because in this area the members seem to be very judgemental and there is a lot of gossip and so on that goes around. It is a fairly small community. I am trying really hard to be supportive of him, but I am afraid I am enabling him to continue. I would really love any advice that you could give me. I don't want to turn tail and run, but I have a daughter and he is really making things miserable right now. He doesn't like to share with me very much how the program works so I am a little lost in all of this. I am just reaching for anything to try to salvage the relationship that we have. It started so beautifully and I really think it could be back there. Thanks for letting me whine .

[COLOR=purple] i know how you feel . i had dated a man who had told me in the beginning that he was a recovering alcoholic and had been sober 4 7 years. after about 10 months in the relationship he had a relapse locked himself in his apartment and drank himself almost to death. It was 10 days of hell . he would not let me in or answer his phone. I then found out from his family that this was a once a year occasion since he was 18. At first i thought that i may be the cause of his relapse. I stayed with him for about 6 months and i found that he was substituting his drinking addiction for me. I wrote down the pros and cons in my journal and realized that i could not continue this relationship. Are you in love with him? Do you feel in some way you can help him? Ask yourself alot of personal questions and be totally honest with yourself. Only you know the answer