Full Version: family disease is bring us all down
i just need to know there are others out there that will listen and i to them. my family and i are so emotionally , mentally , and physically exhausted as i am sure alot of you are.every ounce of hope left that i have is disappearing rapidly. i married an alcoholic who was abusive in so many ways. i was able to leave finally after 8 years. i just wanted out after he addmitted to an affair , i was very frightened of him so i settled for very litttle. i am now living back at home until i can get completely on my feet. my parents are wonderful and we have a very strong and positive relationship. i have been back home for about 5 years. the problem is that my brother in the past yr has seperated from his wife and has also moved back in. he is an alcohlic and cocaine addict. he is 41 and has been in and out of rehab several times as out patient. It may last a week or two and then he is back to his old ways. My parents have given him so many chances and had even fought the insurance company with the family Doctor stating that he needs impatient care for 30 days or even more. My father plays to roles in this father and boss.He has been in business for himself for the last 35+ yrs. i resently started working for him and left my other job. my brother has been drinking on the job from early morning till the end of his shift. He has stolen from the company to support his habit. we are so exhausted. he does not have any remorse for what he has done and just does not get it how he is bringing the family down with him. oh sure he has fired him on several occassions but my parents are also grandparents 2 three wonderful kids. my mother suffers from panick atttacks as do i. I can not even stand the smell of alcohal and have no desire to drink. my brother is killing himself and i feel so helpless. thanks for listening i had to get it off my chest. anyone who wants to chat i will be there for u
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Dear Cheryl, Your family sounds just like mine and I know what you are going thru! You MUST pray alot, and if possible, remove yourself from that home! It will bring you down too if you dont move! You should then make an ultimatum to your brother that unless he gets help YOU are not supporting his ways anymore. Of course the whole amily should do this, but it is much harder for the parents I know. If everyone does this and he has no support, no where to go, he may think rehab looks good to him and even better, that he NEEDS it! Thats what we did 10 years ago and my brother has been sober since. IT took time tho, he was used to running the show. meanwhile your whole family needs alanon everyday..and the Lord!! I will pray for you, good luck!![B]
i just need to know there are others out there that will listen and i to them. my family and i are so emotionally , mentally , and physically exhausted as i am sure alot of you are.every ounce of hope left that i have is disappearing rapidly. i married an alcoholic who was abusive in so many ways. i was able to leave finally after 8 years. i just wanted out after he addmitted to an affair , i was very frightened of him so i settled for very litttle. i am now living back at home until i can get completely on my feet. my parents are wonderful and we have a very strong and positive relationship. i have been back home for about 5 years. the problem is that my brother in the past yr has seperated from his wife and has also moved back in. he is an alcohlic and cocaine addict. he is 41 and has been in and out of rehab several times as out patient. It may last a week or two and then he is back to his old ways. My parents have given him so many chances and had even fought the insurance company with the family Doctor stating that he needs impatient care for 30 days or even more. My father plays to roles in this father and boss.He has been in business for himself for the last 35+ yrs. i resently started working for him and left my other job. my brother has been drinking on the job from early morning till the end of his shift. He has stolen from the company to support his habit. we are so exhausted. he does not have any remorse for what he has done and just does not get it how he is bringing the family down with him. oh sure he has fired him on several occassions but my parents are also grandparents 2 three wonderful kids. my mother suffers from panick atttacks as do i. I can not even stand the smell of alcohal and have no desire to drink. my brother is killing himself and i feel so helpless. thanks for listening i had to get it off my chest. anyone who wants to chat i will be there for u
QUOTE(cheryl cook @ Jul 17 2005, 02:15 PM)
i just need to know there are others out there that will listen and i to them. my family and i are so emotionally , mentally , and physically exhausted as i am sure alot of you are.every ounce of hope left that i have is disappearing rapidly. i married an alcoholic who was abusive in so many ways. i was able to leave finally after 8 years. i just wanted out after he addmitted to an affair , i was very frightened of him so i settled for very litttle. i am now living back at home until i can get completely on my feet. my parents are wonderful and we have a very strong and positive relationship. i have been back home for about 5 years. the problem is that my brother in the past yr has seperated from his wife and has also moved back in. he is an alcohlic and cocaine addict. he is 41 and has been in and out of rehab several times as out patient. It may last a week or two and then he is back to his old ways. My parents have given him so many chances and had even fought the insurance company with the family Doctor stating that he needs impatient care for 30 days or even more. My father plays to roles in this father and boss.He has been in business for himself for the last 35+ yrs. i resently started working for him and left my other job. my brother has been drinking on the job from early morning till the end of his shift. He has stolen from the company to support his habit. we are so exhausted. he does not have any remorse for what he has done and just does not get it how he is bringing the family down with him. oh sure he has fired him on several occassions but my parents are also grandparents 2 three wonderful kids. my mother suffers from panick atttacks as do i. I can not even stand the smell of alcohal and have no desire to drink. my brother is killing himself and i feel so helpless. thanks for listening i had to get it off my chest. anyone who wants to chat i will be there for u
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