I am at my wits end with my partner and his refusal to pay our bills.I left him in feb and moved back to OH. He is working full time and I am not because of lack of jobs in area, but I have borrowed, saved, and scrimped to pay our bills. I threatened him today that I was going to shut off the cell phone if he does not pay for his half. I am supposed to be understanding and compassionate to his diease, but am I supposed to continue to enable him by paying his portion and risking my fiancial future.

Believe me, he can take care of himself. You do not have to support him. He will find his way , one way or another.

Now , you may need help to stand for yourself and deal with you need of control etc. Alanon is a good place to find this help.

See the phone book and call to find out a meeting close to you.

Alanon meetings, literature and the practice of the steps will help you to find serenity in the middle of the storm

Big Hugs

You need to go Al-anon. They are so well equiped to help you. Look in the phone book and find a meeting. I also live Ohio and know there are meetings all over. I have also went to a few meetings to help me. I am an alcoholic in recovery and was married to a man who was an alcoholic. He is now in recovery also. Al-Anon helped me.
Good luck.
Patty W.