[B][FONT=Arial][SIZE=1][COLOR=blue] I know that there are alot of families out there suffering with an addict in the family, and I have been doing this for 20 plus years. I have four children, and I say I because he doesnt help with them at all. They love him so much, as do I, but his addictions are costing us everything!! He worked almost 60 hours last week to help us catch up from his last crack run, and what does he do? Right now he is out spending his damn paycheck. I am so tired of always being the one with the full responsibilitied of the kids, the house, and every other thing around here. Our marriage isnt very good right now, he spent some time with another woman, he swears they just talked, but i'm not stupid, he drinks alot, has had many DWI's, is now currently on probation, when he gets good and drunk, he pee's the bed, and all over me, he is mean to everyone, and I think after all these years, I need to get out while I still can. Not only for me, but for the kids. Our oldest son is 17, and he knows what his father is doing, this is so tough. My husband is the only one who works, I stay home and take care of the kids, so it's tough to just say it's over, get out, I just dont know what to do anymore, and I guess I figured that I would try this, just to get a little advice, please, let me know how you feel, what I should do, how should I handle this mess? Thanks Kellie

[COLOR=purple][B] kellie, i really feel for you. I too was married 2 an alcohalic with many different personalities. I walked on eggshells because of his emotionally, mentally, and sexual abuse. Who was he going to be hour to hour. I never had kids so your situation is different. I felt trapped and so alone. It is not easy to make a change as many of us do not like it even if we are in a abusive relationship it is familiar. My ex had an afffair at first i was angry then realized this was my way out. This woman actually saved me and made me see the light. .Life is a learning experience you deserve to be happy. Your children deserve to be happy. Go 2 support groups and you will find their are so many people out there in the same situation .They can help you through it. Have faith

Kelie I'am sure you love your husband, or did at one time, but think about it...you know what the other woman is getting...for one thing let him pee all over her...LOL. I know its not funny but its the truth, contact a Batters Woman shelter...NOW they will tell you what to do, give you a lawyers name, whatever.
Kellie your life is going to change lets hope for the better,I understand all your going to lose,but they are things, I'am sure you'll still have the house, the state will help you develope some job skills if you don't any, you have the skill to stay in that 'crazy life' & 'try' to remaine sane, Battered Woman are stronger then they think. Thinks will be tough for awile, but were all here to help you in any way we can, if I'am close to you I'll be at your door,to help in any way possible. But remember how strong you are already, look what you put up with already, I'am in So. Calif, I went throught hell when my husband was drinking, & grew up with my X-Dads beating my Mom & us, so I 'know' something? Now I'am dealing with my Son who is a 28 yr.old 'A', probling watching his Dad get away with what he did. But also many people don't believe in 'Geans', but my Son is so much like my X-Dad, who he has seen 3-4 times in his life, so he didn't pick up this attitute from watching my X-Dad. Close the 'Pity Pot' put your 'Boots' on & do what you can to keep your family from being more like your husb. You're stronger then you think, remember were all here for you. Love & hugs, Pegi