Denial Patterns:

· I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.

· I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel.

· I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well being of others.



Low Self Esteem Patterns:

· I have difficulty making decisions.

· I judge everything I think, say or do harshly, as never "good enough."

· I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts.

· I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.

· I value others' approval of my thinking, feelings and behavior over my own.

· I do not perceive myself as a lovable or worthwhile person.



Compliance Patterns:

· I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others' anger.

· I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.

· I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.

· I value others' opinions and feelings more than my own and am afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own.

· I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want.

· I accept sex when I want love.



Control Patterns:

· I believe most other people are incapable of taking care of themselves.

· I attempt to convince others of what they "should" think and how they "truly" feel.

· I become resentful when others will not let me help them.

· I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked.

· I lavish gifts and favors on those I care about.

· I use sex to gain approval and acceptance.

· I have to be "needed" in order to have a relationship with others.