I am new to this site and have just recently have accepted the fact that my boyfriend of 10 years in an alcoholic. The biggest issue I am having a hard time accepting and understanding is why do alcoholics disconnect from the people closest to them? We can continue to communicate fairly well but there is a big gap there as he has disconnected himself from me.

Any insight into this would be so much appreciated as this is really burdening me.

Thank you!

Hi, happywanderer. Sorry you're not all that happy right now.

What you're describing is just part of alcoholism.

I'd suggesting trying Al-Anon for yourself. We have an Al-Anon forum, just scroll down a bit, and we also have an active Al-Anon email meeting. You can subscribe and give it a try here: http://www.onlinealano.org/html/meetings.html

Other Al-Anon resources, if you'd like to find out a bit more about it:

http://www.al-anon.org

http://www.ola-is.org