Hi,
I am new here. I met my boy friend about 10 years ago, i will call him Dave. I was dating his best friend, I will call him Paul. We all went out as a group and we all drank alot. Paul past away and I started a relationship with Dave. Actaully we were attracted to eachother before Paul died. Paul and I were having alot of problems before he past away. Dave and I dated for about two years after Pauls death but neither of us could ever move past losing Paul so we broke up. We took a break for a year. I stopped drinking so much after all 10 years had past I grew up. Dave was still drinking alot. We got back together about 7months ago. With in those 7 months he lost his job, was in the hospital for a hernia, and two weeks ago his daughter(not mine) went missing for 5 days and I suffered a loss. We have been under alot of stress and he has been dealing with it by drinking. Now he is scaring me because last week he disapeared for about 4 days and when he came back he said he was depressed and he went on a drinking binge and he needs to get his life back and he needs me and promises to straighten up. I am an adult child of a recovering alcoholic so I am not nieve about these empty promises but I wanted to help I love him sooooo much. Well I have spent 72 hours with him and the minute I went back to work on monday he disapeared again. I think its more then alcohol. I am scared for him, for his daughter(she does not live with him) and I am scared of what lies ahead for us. I can not even focus on my job I do not know where he is. Any words of wisdom?

Hi,
This is a very hard thing to go through, but you are never alone. Al-anon meetings address these issues better than any program out there, so my suggestion is to find a meeting and get there as soon as possible. You may already be a member of Al-anon. Praying is the best solution to all of my problems, then I can start to accept what happens a little better. When I can accept a person, place or thing, as the way it is, then it somehow seems less overwhelming.
All the best,
His will-not mine

Adult Children Of Alcoholics or A.C.O.A. or A.C.A. meetings are very helpful too. They have saved my life in your situation. Try your best to stay in the day, in the moment even and prey. I will prey for you and your situation that all works out for the best possible out come.

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