One of the things I have enjoyed most about going to my Alanon meetings is the ability to throw a topic out there, and here 3,4, 8... different people share their experiences. This has helped me through some of the biggest hurdles in my short time as an Alamon member. Not only have I heard ideas to help me through the problem I'm dealing with, but I've also been able to breath a slight sigh of relief. All the support and kindness seems to help minimize the severity of the problem, and help me to think more clearly. So, as I sit here at work, trying to remember some of the things I've learned, I thought it would be great to get an online discussion started to help remind me how to get through when all I want to do is cry.

Today, I'm almost embarrassed to say that my problem is with a co-worker/friend. I find myself being the enabler, and trying to make her happy, at the expense of doing a good job myself. I don't want her to upset her, but in trying hard to explain my need, without hurting her feelings by disagreeing, I'm afraid I'm not expressing the needs, which I am accountable for. So, I wanted to come to an Alanon meeting and listen to other people...