Hi, I am living with my wife who just completed detox. She wants to attend alot of meetings now and i am having a hard time trusting her any suggestions

I'd suggest that you try a few Al-Anon meetings:

http://www.al-anon.org

or for online resources:

http://www.ola-is.org

Living with a new recovering spouse, is not easy?What was her illness before? aside that your stating detox from what? but by the way, do you have children? Because, as a husband you have a great rule to your wife. She needs a super understanding, patient and proper care of every member of the family.

Instead that you let her grow with her friends, you must have a solid bonding with family. You must have a constant communication and as also husband see to it that you act as a husband to her and a father to her child. You must consider that her situation is not the same before. Do not always blame her or give burden.

And the child must cooperate with you, attend the need of their mother so that she must have a full recovery.

hi friends

this is not serious issue ........i think you both make compatible with each other.........the problem automatically solved .....just tried to talk with heart

HOW DO YOU CREATE YOUR OWN BOUNDARIES?

This is a great question. Creating boundaries and limitations in life is hard! How can we state them, if we don't know them. I suggest writing them down as you find and discover them. We, as individuals, have to know and be well aware of what we are willing to accept from people. Some behavior is just not acceptable to me. One of the things that is at the top of my list is that I will not let myself be defined by someone else's opinion of me. This is a hard one. If I do not know this boundary and limitation for myself, others will not know either. Sometimes, Folks know and just don't care. That is when I have to ask myself, "Am I doing the next right thing? How does my Higher Power feel about what I am doing?" If I know that it is next right thing, and that my Higher Power would not be disappointed in me, then I should not let the other persons opinion vary my own view of self...or My Gods. In meetings, at the end, a lot of us read The Promises from the big book pages 83 and 84. There is a sentence just before the beginning of the reading that is not included, but is listed in the book on page 83. It says, "As God's people we stand on our feet; we don't crawl before anyone." This is boundary for me. This tells me that I am important to God (my Higher Power as I understand Him), what I do is important to him. Think for yourself, "What am I not willing to take from someone?" Write those answers down, and you have your beginning. Ask your sponsor to help, if you desire. Either way, know and set clearly your boundaries and limitations to others. I believe that along with Acceptance, Boundaries and Limitations clearly stated are directly proportional to my serenity.

Examples of Boundaries

The 10 Demandments - We must be careful not to put too many expectations on another human being in our life also.

Boundaries and Limitations that Could get you in trouble.

Consider these Causes of The Heart when creating Boundaries and Limitations for Yourself.

SETTING YOUR BOUNDARIES AND LIMITATIONS AS A SPONSOR: Everyone has boundaries and limitations! As a sponsor, we should lay these out right off the bat! Let the sponsee know what you will and won't and can and can't do. I am a pretty smart ole gal myself, but I need them stated to me so that I understand and make clear a way for good personal relationships. Go over the 12 Steps Of A Sponsor with them. Let them know that it is your job to share you experience, strength and hope with them. It is your job to encourage them to take the action required in the steps. They have to meet you half way. I tell me girls right off the bat that they have to talk to me a number of times a week, and attend at least one meeting a week with me. Let your lines be clear! This will make the relationship a little easier and calling somebody on their stuff a lot easier at times.