I started going to alanon meetings and found them somewhat helpful, however I understand that "I" am not the only one at the meetings. They have/do give me guidence, however I need more questions answered. Currently I read all the alanon books (3). Courage to change, Alanon and Hope for change every night before I go to sleep. My husband (not drunk) usually groans when I do this. I read to help me in my recovery, however a friend pointed out to me, that I am pressuring him regarding his drinking. My intention is for me, not him? Am I wrong to read my books in front of him? Should I hide the fact that I should only read them when he isn't around?

Please help,
Melissa

No, you're not wrong. You're doing the right thing for you.

Oh! And welcome to the forums.

These pages haven't been very active lately. I'd suggest the email Al-Anon group hosted here at the club. This would be a perfect question for them, and you would get many supportive responses, perhaps even helpful! The group is primarily women, most of whom have been subscribed to the list for several years. It's quite informal ... and fun. To subscribe, go to

http://lists.onlinealano.org/mailman/listinfo/alanon

And for even more online choices, visit http://www.ola-is.org

Dean