"when anyone anywhere reaches out for help i want the hand of AA to be ther an for that I am responsible" that being said what do i do when it is my sons mom who just lied and manipulated the courts in custody battle.....

I'm not sure what help you are asking for. Are you asking whether AA can help with custody battles? Yes, in the sense of helping an alcoholic not drink as he or she goes through one. No, in the sense of providing legal advice.

Perhaps if you clarify what problem you're having, it would help. What does your attorney say about it? Can you report the perjury to the court? Etc.

well courts over not going there again... just this has been going on for 8 years now she sobers up for what ever is going on wether it be court or DHS or family or what ever... she goes back out and gets on a bad binge and then calls me to help sober her up.... now i have the safety of my son to worry about and my job and everything else and i just want to say NO go roll in a ditch and drown in your own vomit or bottle for all i care... but my son deserves to have a mother who can care and love him soooooo i go get her and do the detox again....

definition of insanity " doing the same actions expecting different results"

One of my old sponsers Clancy U whom died with 52 years sober years ago always preached the "i am responsible" but is there a point where i am no longer responsible for helping or attempting to help her and if so how do i say no sorry i cant do it this time and then how to i quash the feelings of letting my son down letting her down and of my own failure in helping her if i do say no