My daughter is a recovering addict. Since checking herself out of a recovery hospital in Sept. (her first one) she has stopped calling her family. When she first came home there was some communication. Mostly me calling, writing and 2 visits. I communicated every 2 weeks so as not to overwhelm her. She lives an hour away. She is upset we (her family) weren't there for her when she came home when in actuality we were devestated and upset since we felt this it was very unwise to come home after only 10 days. The longer she has been home the more distant she has become. I am going to Ala- Anon and I am trying to find my serenity and letting her live her own life hoping she will come around when she is ready. She says she doesn't know if she can ever come home for even a visit because everyone knows she was in the hospital and that is my fault. She has 2 little boys I miss dealy. but do not want to upset their family by coming when I am not wanted. Has anyone been in a similar situation? With Christmas coming up this all is especially hard. I love her and miss her family.

Hi, Emilie,
I am an alcoholic so I can't tell you why your daughter is doing what she is.
But I can tell you from an alcoholics point of view the best thing to do is to
give her space and time. You can ask if you can see your grandchildren or take them out for a treat or something but if she needs to stay away the best thing to
do is to let her. She will find her way back to you if she is working a good program.
One of our favorite sayings in AA is "This too shall pass."
Like I said, give her time. All things change.
Change is the only constant.
Good Luck,
PamW